(TW for body stuff? I don’t know sometimes what needs tw’s and what doesn’t.)
Sometimes I have momentary lapses of extreme self body hate and I get jealous of others and angry and mean and get so upset at myself for it! It’s SO UGLY of me. There is this girl I know who is BEAUTIFUL, who just…
I guess it’s good to know I’m not the only one who feels the need to warn men about my body…I guess. It’s just so fucking sad that anyone would ever feel this way about their body.
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What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a women, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male…
if you’re fat and you don’t put up with assholes you better be prepared to be called a fat bitch all the time
Season 8 totally needs to be about Nancy and Co. going back to Agrestic (Majestic? whichever) and her trying to take her old territory back from Celia, who is the New Nancy. It’s the only way to go, really.
